“You is kind. You is smart. You is important.”― Kathryn Stockett, The Help
As a stay at home mom I often forget my 'worth.' I don't have a boss or coworkers praising me for a job well done and I don't get paychecks or raises when I feel like I'm doing a really good job. Sometimes my feeling of worth gets lost between messy buns, tears that can't be consoled, grocery trips gone wrong and more. My goal for 2016 is to make sure that I don't deprive myself from knowing that "I Have Worth" by getting my fill of loves, slowing down, taking time for myself and making memories with my people. By doing this I will be able to be a better mother and help others to recognize their worth too.
The founder of Camplight Apparel had her reasons for making this shirt and helping others find their worth; This is her story:
"As some of you may know from previous posts, my birth mom was addicted to drugs, and I was conceived by rape. After a couple years living in abuse, neglect, abandonment, and homelessness, I was put in a foster home and then adopted when I was almost three.
My adopted parents already had another adopted daughter who was eight years older than me. She had begged for a sister. When my parents were about to give up hope that they would ever be able to adopt another child, they got a phone call saying two girls were available for adoption. Without hesitation or even seeing us, they agreed to take in me and my half-sister as part of their family.
When I started school, I was constantly made fun of for being adopted. The kids would tell me that no one wanted me. Back then, adoption wasn't really heard of. In fact, I didn't know anyone else who was adopted.
In 6th grade my heart was broken all over again. I can't imagine what it must have felt like when my oldest sister told my parents she was leaving our family. With the help of her boyfriend, she found her birth parents and no longer desired a relationship with us. My parents couldn't handle the pain and decided that we should move. We moved to a new place in the middle of the school year. My mom, who had stayed at home with us up until then, was forced to go to work because of the higher cost of living. As an adult, I understand that she needed to help provide for us, but at that time, I felt like I was losing my main source of stability.
I struggled to make quality friends in middle school, and when high school came around,I began to find my worth in people's opinions of me. If I'm honest, mostly guys' opinions of me.
My lack of value led to me getting married at the young age of 16 and having a baby at 17. By the time I was 18 the marriage turned into an unhealthy and dangerous situation for me and my son, and after months of being cheated on and abused, I was pushed to the point of suicide. However, my love for my son and desire to protect his future kept me alive and gave me the strength to walk away from that abusive situation.
As such a young mother, I was constantly judged and devalued. I felt completely worthless and broken.
That all changed when I attended a Passion conference in 2003. There I questioned God about how he could know and love me when I was surrounded by thousands of worshipping people. I felt Him say, "Tiffany, I know every hair on your head and I know your heart. I will never leave you or forsake you." This changed my life forever and set me on a new path.
I used to find my worth in those around me, but now I find worth in the One who created me.
As I began to see worth in myself, I wanted to make sure my son was doing the same. I told him how he had value and explained what "I have worth" means. I started giving him 6 love pats on the chest while saying "I love you. You have worth." Eventually I stopped saying the words and just gave the 6 pats, he would always respond with, "Thank you; I love you too." I think our babies are never too young to learn that they have worth. I wish that, as I grew up, someone would have taught me that I have worth and am valued. We made these shirts to help teach our children this important lesson. We released them in adult sizes as well, as even when we're grown we need to be reminded of who we really are."
I think we can all relate or have similar stories of a time in our life when we let our worth slip from our heart and mind and into someone or something else's hands. I hope we can always find our way back and something that reminds us that we all have worth.
Happy New Years Friends. You're all 'worth' something! I love you all!
Shirt: Camplight Apparel